How to Communicate the Need for Personal Space in Love.

 

Artist - Sofan Chan

        How does one express their personal needs in relationships? 

It’s possibly, one of the most frequently asked questions by those who have come to the realisation that some personal needs simply cannot not be satisfied by a partner. 

Our happiness depends on listening to these needs and taking responsibility for them.

When we do this for ourselves, we unconsciously  give our partner/friends/family permission to do the same. 

Most relationships began with an intense period of togetherness and will at some stage move into a period where the togetherness feels ’too much’ and a need or some ‘me’ time arises.

While this is a natural stage in relationships, it is usually difficult for couples to share their need for more space with their partner. All to often the conversation becomes a nasty slanging match of blame and criticising and ends with tears and bad feelings.  

Showing compassion towards the other when expressing these needs is the essential key. It is not the others fault that you feel like you do, nor is it your fault. These feelings are natural, so there is no need at all for blame. 

The best and most effective method is simply to be honest! Whatever your need is, communicate it.  If you need to spend some time alone say so. If you miss your friends, say so. If you are feeling agitated and annoyed and need to just have a little time by yourself, in a familiar environment, say so.  There is nothing wrong with these needs and there is no need for blame (even if you feel at the time it is the others fault, dont go there, keep focussed on your need)

‘I am missing my friends. I am going to try to meet with them a little more often.’ 

‘I am feeling really moody at the moment and think Im going to spend a little time alone this week.’

Love is expressed so sweetly when you are able to be honest and truthful while taking another’s feelings into consideration too.

Once you have expressed yourself with an open heart, go take the time you need, knowing that you are going with the natural flow of life.

Aloneness and Togetherness are two sides of the same coin and united, create the colourful spectrum of Deep love.

Until next time

mysticmiss

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