I live by the ‘everything happens for a reason’ philosophy but I cant get my head around this one

Dancing and Celebrating in IVF after 40

dancing celebrations

 

Im going through my second IVF treatment and have come across something really funny. I really dont understand it and hope someone will shed some light on whats the best course of action.

What is the meaning behind this co incidence.. Its got me stumped.. Im a strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’, but I just dont get this one.  

Each time I get to the stage in the IVF process  when the egss have been transferred inside my womb and I have 12 days to find out if Im pregnant or not I find myself attending an event ( pre plannned) that involves dancing and celebrating.

Its really crazy, the first time it was a friends 40th birthday, a big dance party and the second, just now, I had pre arranged tickets to a West African Dance and Music Concert.  

Now Im not going to the events and totally cutting loose, Im taking it easy, Im not drinking, but I am going to the events and celebrating.

Here’s my dilema..  A friend told me, after the first IVF treatment was not successful,  that maybe its good to be at home, quiet and peaceful and resting once the eggs are transferred. OK good idea I thought, but when the day came that the eggs were transferred ( and you never know the date this will happen right as it depends on how your body responds to the treatment) I realised I had tickets to this West African Cultural concert for the following day. 

What baffles me is WHY!  If everything happens for a reason, why is this coincidence happening, why do I find myself in a celebration environment at the exact time of egg transferral?  What is the meaning behind it?   

Is this about being prepared to give up things for the moment or is it a little helper from life to remind me that being relaxed and without stress is very important for IVF success?  Its got me, I cant seem to find which is the right message.. or maybe its something completely different and Ive totally missed the point.

Can anyone shed some light on this?   Share a thought or perspective?

Whats the message..Is it about giving up on things for the moment or about celebrating life in a time when its so important to be as relaxed as possible for the treatment to be successful ?


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2 Responses

  1. Maybe it’s just about celebrating life. What better time for conception to take place then when mommy is really LIVING and having a good time? And, since being born is a person’s first experience with celebrating life, I’d say it is truly serendipitous that this keeps happening this way. Wishing you luck! :)

  2. I love that picture/painting that you posted. I’ve been looking for a painting of african women dancing for a friend who runs a dance studio and that one is just perfect. Do you know where it’s from? who the artist is, etc?

    On another note, I agree with your philosophy that everything happens for a reason — coincidences are for spiritless people.

    Keep celebrating and good luck!
    Olivia

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