Absolutely Fabulous Video Clip

The Miracle Of  Life …

 

Life is fast these days and while I try to stay in the moment in order to  appreciate the every day miracles occuring from moment to moment I forget sometimes. I forget  how amazing life really is and how truly blessed I am to be here.

Thankfully life sends me little reminders and this clip was one of them. Received it  via Facebook and was spellbound..  what a miracle the creation of life is and womens bodies.. wow  what absolute masterpieces.  

Enjoy !

IVF over 40 success story

 

Searching for success stories on IVF over 40 ?  

pregnant at 42

pregnant over 40 success story

You have come to the right place.  Im a success story and this blog details my journey.

I am 43 and the mother of a healthy beautiful sweet little 10 month old son. I was 41 when I started IVF and became pregnant and 42 when I gave birth.

I created this blog to offer  positive information about the IVF process to women over 35 after scouring the internet  myself desparately looking for success stories of women my age undergoing IVF treatments. I was nervous and afraid and really wanted some inspiration yet  I couldnt  find what i needed. So mysticmiss was created and here I am, 20 odd months down the track giving you living proof that IVF over 35 works and being a mum over 40 is most definately achievable.

If  you havent read any of my previous posts, please do.  They are filed under IVF process and were written in ‘real time’, as I was going through each step in the IVF process.  They offer a detailed run down of  my IVF journey and the things I did, for my physical  mental and emotional  wellbeing to help the process along.  They are written utterly from the heart, aimed to give an honest perspective of the journey.

 To share my story with women going through the same process or women thinking about starting  IVF who are searching for inspiration, who want to connect with a success story to help them find the courage to begin has been a truly uplifting experience. I thank all the readers who supported my journey, who offered kind loving words and encouraged me to continue to share my story.  To those of you who are still in the process, i send you my love. Try to keep positive and  keep visualising the outcome you want.   It can happen for you, dont give up, keep the good energies flowing.

I am living proof that becoming a mum on IVF over 40 is possible. I am proof that the  process can be smooth and straightforward and am proof  also that the  journey no matter how emotional and challenging, can be a beautiful one with a happy ending. 

I know that this is not always the case, I know there are women who experience a great many challenges, but when I began my journey and actually all the way through it,  I needed to hear about successes as well as the challenges. I NEEDED to read about womens positive experiences.  I wanted to read positive uplifting information.

So to all of you who have found  their way to this blog I send you my love and my best wishes for the adventure ahead. Keep your thoughts positive, acknowledge your fears but dont let them take over you and keep your heart open.

These I believe are keys to success in this journey.  To believe that you can and will be a mum, to have faith your process will work and to consistantly visualise the outcome you want, to see it in your minds eye clearly. This is the attitude to aspire to.  Sincere blessings to you all.

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I live by the ‘everything happens for a reason’ philosophy but I cant get my head around this one

Dancing and Celebrating in IVF after 40

dancing celebrations

 

Im going through my second IVF treatment and have come across something really funny. I really dont understand it and hope someone will shed some light on whats the best course of action.

What is the meaning behind this co incidence.. Its got me stumped.. Im a strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’, but I just dont get this one.  

Each time I get to the stage in the IVF process  when the egss have been transferred inside my womb and I have 12 days to find out if Im pregnant or not I find myself attending an event ( pre plannned) that involves dancing and celebrating.

Its really crazy, the first time it was a friends 40th birthday, a big dance party and the second, just now, I had pre arranged tickets to a West African Dance and Music Concert.  

Now Im not going to the events and totally cutting loose, Im taking it easy, Im not drinking, but I am going to the events and celebrating.

Here’s my dilema..  A friend told me, after the first IVF treatment was not successful,  that maybe its good to be at home, quiet and peaceful and resting once the eggs are transferred. OK good idea I thought, but when the day came that the eggs were transferred ( and you never know the date this will happen right as it depends on how your body responds to the treatment) I realised I had tickets to this West African Cultural concert for the following day. 

What baffles me is WHY!  If everything happens for a reason, why is this coincidence happening, why do I find myself in a celebration environment at the exact time of egg transferral?  What is the meaning behind it?   

Is this about being prepared to give up things for the moment or is it a little helper from life to remind me that being relaxed and without stress is very important for IVF success?  Its got me, I cant seem to find which is the right message.. or maybe its something completely different and Ive totally missed the point.

Can anyone shed some light on this?   Share a thought or perspective?

Whats the message..Is it about giving up on things for the moment or about celebrating life in a time when its so important to be as relaxed as possible for the treatment to be successful ?

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IVF after 40 Step By Step Information

The step by step process of IVF

The miracle of ivf

The miracle of ivf

The tests, the ivf drugs, the reactions to the ivf drugs, the Doctors suggestions, the alternate therapies, the positive affirmations and meditations used, what happens on what days of the cycle, its all here. 

And its positive!  For those of you who have been feeling absolutely petrified to read information on the net for fear of it ‘bringing you down’  I hope my posts will give you the positive feeling you deserve and that is so essential for the IVF process to bring results. 

While I am not going to go in to too much detail here (I have written about it in depth in my posts) I want to assure you that the IVF process is NOT anywhere near as bad as you think it is.  Its true that each person experiences things differently, but from my personal IVF adventure, I found the process to be very straight forward  and not at all painful. It is really OK.  Really.  Relax! 

Yes it is challenging emotionally and it has absolutely no guarantees, but hey tell me one thing in life that has been this important to you that hasnt been emotionally challenging..  And on the guarantee side.. apart from toasters, refridgerators and cars what else in life has a guarantee?  

This is a journey we are taking because we want to be mothers.. and we are blessed to be living in a modern age where science has developed this amazing technique to allow us this extra try.. so its worth every bit of anxiousness, fear and any other emotion that may run through our veins in this process.

Our job in this process is to be as healthy as happy as relaxed and as positive as we possible can be throughout the treatment . To participate in the process with our full hearts and to keep our minds positive.  The rest is up to life. 

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Its essential to be as healthy, as relaxed and as positive as you possibly can..

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IVF at 41 – Relaxed Positive Determined

fruit of life - samanthacallahan.com

fruit of life - samanthacallahan.com

A quick update as I proceed to the second stage of my IVF treatment.  As you know my first IVF treatment was not successful.  Well it was successful in the sense that my body reacted wonderfully to the treatment, producing 13 eggs of which 9 were good enough for fetilization.  When injected with my husbands sperm all 9 were fertilized.  This meant we were blessed with the opportunity to have at least 2 tries for pregnancy with these eggs. 

The first attempt where 3 eggs were inserted was not successful.  It was initially quite devastating, however I have moved through that and found my positivity again. I realised its essential to be positive and to try to visualise a successful outcome.  Determination is also essential as is being calm and relaxed.

Easier said than done sometimes, but its a must.  Im using postive affirmations which I say daily when I wake up and any time throughout the day when I feel fear/worry/insecurity rising. Im also listening to a guided meditation cd 3 times a week and bought a beginners yoga dvd which I do 3 times a week. This combination is really doing the trick.  Since being determined, positive, calm and relaxed are qualitites we need to learn anyway if we are to be great parents, I figure NOW is a great time to start mastering these skills!!  Where our energy flows reality goes!!

I have now begun the process for the second attempt.  As I said I was blessed that my body created enough eggs to allow me at least one more egg transfer, before i need to go through the complete hormone treatment again. So at this stage although i am on hormones its not the whole needle story again.

On the first day of my period, I began taking progynova (2mg)  3 times a day after food. This is a female hormone used in IVF treatments to build up the lining of the uterus in preparation for my egg (embyro) transfer. In laymans terms, it helps develop ‘the wall’ where the egg attaches itself hence creating a pregnancy. 

I have an appointment in 12 days time where an ultrasound will be done to check the thickness of ‘the wall’.  Once its the right thickness, they will insert the eggs and then its a 12-15 day wait to see if I am pregnant.

Its a very straight forward process.  Ive set my cell phone to give me an alarm 3 times a day to remind me to take the pills and apart from that its life as usual.  The hormones dont seem to be having any adverse effects and the accupuncture is,  as usual helping me keep the emotions in balance.  Ill write again after the appointment with the doctor.  Fingers crossed for me.

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much love mystic miss

IVF – Moving Forward Positively

IVF the next step

Reading my posts over the past months, you will know my first IVF treatment experience was a very positive one. Everything went very smoothly and so nicely, with such positive results along the way, we were SURE we would get a positive result when it came time to do a pregnancy test.

However, it was negative and the numbness, disbelief and disappointment that surrounded the days after this were truly terrible.  I didn’t have so much time to really process the feelings. A very sweet friend was being married that evening, a friend was arriving from Australia the following day, less than a week later another friend arrived from the UK and another very dear friend (who is 6 months pregnant) was getting married.  I also received the wonderful news that one of my best friends was 3 months pregnant. It was a period of wonderful celebrations & excitement for these very dear friends coming right at a time when I felt like hiding in a cupboard in the dark with the disappointment of my ‘failure’.

Putting my own feelings aside, I celebrated and connected with the positive energy of the moment and rejoiced in the excitement that these special people in my life were feeling. There were difficult moments for sure, but in hindsight, its clear that in doing this, it was in its own way,  a precious gift I gave to myself also.

When I eventually took  some quiet moments to sit with myself I found that an unconscious rationalising of my circumstances had occurred.  A wise and positive sense of perspective had been created with the absence of ‘my mind’.  I realised a few things that I believe are incredibly important to remember when faced with the disappointment of a negative pregnancy result.

1.  Few things in life work the first time round 

Consider your experience with  finding love, a career, a home and even learning to ride a bike!!  All of these things have usually needed more than one try to find the success and contentment we imagined for ourselves. We have needed to brush off our wounded hearts/egos/ mind and carry on in search of ‘the one’  

IVF is the same. When it doesn’t work the first time its painfully disappointing there’s no doubt of this, but its not a reason to give up. As we do in our lives, we need to learn from our experience and move forward trying to do it better next time round. Maybe its putting more heart in to the diet the doctor suggested, maybe its meditating more regularly in order to keep  stress levels down and the body more at peace during the process, maybe its sleeping more, maybe its simply being more positive, visualising the positive result we want rather than spending the majority of our time gripped by the fear of failure. There are so many little changes we can make to help things along.

2. The financial costs

Its so common and natural when the sense of failure comes that we consider the financial cost of the attempt. ‘What a waste of money’ etc etc. However, its really not helpful to think like this.  Money is money, its purpose is to buy us the things that we need and want in life.  If being a mother is something we really want then its the perfect use for money.  After all, if its not spent on another IVF treatment, at some stage in our life it will eventually be spent on a home, a holiday, a new sofa, car or any other number of ‘things.’ If we really want a child, we really want to experience the joy of motherhood and we are having trouble naturally then money is simply a means to try to get what we want. If you can afford to have another go then why not and if you cant afford it, begin a determined search to find what funding is available, what options are out there for you. There are options, but it means being super determined in your hunt for information.

3. There are no guarantees in life

This is an important one. All throughout our lives we learn this essential  lesson and we need to remember to put it into context in our journey through IVF as well. When we really want something with all our heart, the best we can do is to go for it, to give it everything we have, to believe as strongly as we can that its possible and to do everything that needs to be done. That’s all we can do, life determines the results.

We have all had dreams that we gave our complete heart and soul to that didn’t work out. We have all felt that disappointment, that heart wrenching feeling of not achieving a dream or goal. But we also know that we survived it, we moved on and with time the pain subsided and other wonderful things occurred, other successes were experienced. 

One of the things I believe that help us to move on is that there is no guilt when we know that we really gave it everything we had, we were focused, we were determined, we put our heart and soul into it.   When it doesn’t happen, its devastating and heart breaking but we know we did everything we possibly could to make it happen. Its the best we can do, the rest is out of our control.

After my next period I return to focussing on babies. I am blessed with not needing to do the full hormone treatment as my little body produced enough eggs for another try. I feel good,  I feel determined and I feel very focussed.  So Lets see ..

Until next time

much love mysticmiss

IVF at 41 is going fabulously!

courtesy of bbc.co.uk

courtesy of bbc.co.uk

Im in the final stages of my first IVF treatment and so far my expereince has been a really positive one. Everything was much easier and a whole lot less emotional than either myself or my husband ever imagined it would be. 

Of course we are all individuals and each will respond differently to the treatment. My story is just one experience. However I felt compelled to share it on the off chance that women searching the internet to get an idea of the expereince they may go through, may come across my IVF story and take some ‘feel good energy’ from me.

I remember when I was considering IVF treatment, I was gripped with fear. It all seemed so clinical and cold. Searching the internet I found more horror stories than positive ones and the stories shared in casual conversations about friends of friends just fed the fear rather than calmed the nerves.

By  writing and sharing my story, from the actual decision to have a child at 41 to finding the doctor and beginning IVF treatment,  I have hoped to perhaps be the positive feedback for women that I struggled so hard to find in my searches.  

Ive written posts on my experience from day one of the treatment (all filed under IVF on my home page) and  have been truly humbled by the beautiful connections made with women around the globe who have appreciated my ramblings. Many were, like me, petrified of process and most named the adverse effects of the hormone treatment on emotions as one of their greatest fears. Quite understandable..I was the same who wants to turn into a big bad nasty witch!

My experience has been so positive in this aspect. I have been astounded how simple, easy and smooth the process has been, how little effect the hormones have had one me and how relaxed it is actually possible to be in the treatment. (this is a choice obviously and takes focus, but it is possible)

I am 41.  ‘Quite old’ according to Doctors and a point, they for some reason, have felt important to remind me of on numerous occasions. (not great for the self esteem, hence my post on my emotional wellbeing angel) Add to the age factor, the quality of my husbands sperm, his little swimmers are not really in the greatest of conditions and yes, that made us a classic IVF couple.

 We tried to conceive naturally for 6 months without success. and then began looking into IVF treatment feeling this was the next logical step.  As Ive mentioned, so far its been ok. Well more than ok, the IVF process has been, all things considered, a breeze.

The hormones didnt effect me very much, apart from a bit of tiredness and a little weight gain. Its actually more like bloating, but I was so overwhelmed at how smooth everything was going that feeling a bit ‘fat’ seemed easy to deal with.  

The daily hormone needles ended up being, in a weird sort of way, an opportunity for my husband and I to feel deeply connected to one another in the treatment.  Im totally afraid of needles, so in the daily ritual of injecting me, my husband witnessed both my vulnerability and fear. He developed a very sweet compassion for what I, the woman was going through and within him, a sort of admiration grew. He saw me as being really brave. It was nice.

And here we are, in the final stages. On wednesday, my eggs were taken out. Not a difficult process. You go under for 20 minutes while they do the removal and then spend an hour or two in the hospital afterwards, to let the saline drip put some liquids back in to the system and to have something to eat.

courtesy of bbc.co.uk

courtesy of bbc.co.uk

You are then sent home with instructions to take the anibiotics twice a day and to begin inserting the vaginal tablets 3 times a day.  (hubby graciously offered to be responsible for this chore..bless him.. any opportunity to be up close and personal with his beloved V… I declined his kind offer )  

They took out 13 eggs in total, apparently a great result. 9 eggs were of good enough quality to inject the sperm into and today (friday) when I went back to have the eggs transferred back inside me, we were told all 9 eggs fertilised.

The Doctor decided (because of my age) to put 3 eggs back inside me. This took about 10 minutes and was not at all painful or scary.  And now its a waiting game. In 12 days we have an appointment to go and have a blood test to see if I am pregnant. Gosh !!  Modern technology amazes me. Its mind blowing.. absolutely Mad.  Mad Mad Mad!!!

Who knows what the results will be. Its now in the lap of the gods!  For now my emotional wellbeing is where I am putting my focus. Being relaxed, happy and thinking positive thoughts. Im visualising being a mother, Im doing guided meditations to connect with my eggs to let them know how very welcome they are in my body and Im doing reiki on myself.  My goal is to have as much positive energy around and within me and to feel at ease.  A daily ritual is a great idea to help with this.

Daily chakra clearing meditations help me to feel I am keeping my energy flowing at its best for conception and asking angels to be close to my side helps me to feel I am being supported by the universe.  All a bit airy fairy I know, but I love ‘airy fairy’ and I really feel its helped me have the positive experience Ive had so far.

We’ll see..  Ill write again in 12 days with an update. 


Until then, much love
mysticmiss