Teaching Children Empathy

Japans Answer to teaching children empathy

 

This clip was passed to me yesterday and I was so deeply moved by it, I felt it important to pass it on. ‘Children Full of Life’  is a short documentry (separated into 5  x 10 mins clips on you tube) on a teacher in japan who is teaching his grade 4 students to develop empathy.

The depth of the little kids emotions and the ability they develop with this teacher to share them  was deeply touching. I was moved to tears a few times, proud of them, proud of their courage.  These little people are learning perhaps one of the most important human skills  – empathy.  

If  schools around  the globe, begin including  in their ciriculum, lessons in empathy, compassion, remorse and forgiveness we may in the next generations,  experience a whole new level at which humanity communicates. 

I was inspired and so very proud of these boys and girls.

Life changing tips

I love life and wouldnt give up the opportunity to be here for quids!! But its not always easy for me to feel  joy and contentment in the hustle and bustle of modern day life.

Life is so fast paced these days, all go go go and sometimes I feel completely overwhelmed by it all. I have been asking myself how can I try to live my life with inner peace and joy when all around me is a seemingly chaotic world?

Structure!  it seems has been the key for me.  Putting structure in my life is helping me to feel a sense of balance, a sense of calm and a greater sense of wellbeing.

Here is a brief outline of what I have structured into my life.  As we are all precious individuals, we each have our loves,  financial buget &  time frame to work with. If for instance your buget will not allow for a monthly massage, then consider scheduling one every 2,3 or 4 months and if time doesnt allow you a meditation space everyday for 30mins then consider 2 or 3 times a week or even once a week.

The key is structure, so its more about consistancy. Hope there’s some ideas here to inspire you.

Until Next time

mysticmiss 

Daily

morning ritual – see my easy morning ritual page

30 mins meditation

10 mins focussed breathing -currently feeling the breath move in and out of my body though the nose 

Eat 1 piece of fresh fruit

take omega 3

 

Weekly

1hr walk once a week

1hr accupuncture session

1hr bicyle ride around the city

3hrs volunteering  – currently  cooking supper on a monday evening in a childrens refuge home.

30 mins email/skype connecting to friends/family  from afar (living abroad)

30 mins sending distant healing to friends/family with current illnesses/ emotional challenges

2hrs learning something new – currently learnng about Bach Flower Remedys

1 night a week going to bed early and just enjoying a great night sleep.

1 night a week going to bed early with my husband nuturing intimacy (usually twice week)

watch the sunset once a week.

30 mins gazing at the moon once a week.

Monthly

1hr massage

Day with family of my husband

Meeting with an old friend to catch up on life

Baby sit  for a friend with kids so they can go out together

2hrs doing something creative

Easy Morning Ritual to create a GREAT day!

Each day is a miracle

There is a precious powerful moment that occurs in our lives. It has the potential to transform our perspective on reality…

And the fabulous news is, that it comes along  every single day of our lives.

 This moment can transform your entire day from a run of the mill, stressed out experience, into a day filled with a sense of joy  gratitude and focus. 

Have you noticed this precious little moment in your day?   

 Its easy to miss it.  It can last for a mere nano second… or as I will explain, with a little effort, can also last a few minutes or as long as you desire.

Its a moment thats so incredibly powerful. Its potential so great, that if recognised and used well,  can transform your day from an average day into something much more wonderful.

This moment I am talking about, is the tiny little moment in your new day when you have become aware that you are no longer sleeping, but you havent yet opened your eyes ?

This little window of time is very unique  because it is so delightfully pure. Untainted with thoughts, concerns worries plans or emotions it is completely empty of content offering you a clean slate in which to start your day. 

Its this tiny little pure slice of your day, that we will be working with.    

 The  Easy Morning Ritual, takes as little as 5 minutes. The techniques are simple and anyone can do it.

Use the EASY MORNING RITUAL in this little window of time in your day and you will usually feel results from Day 1.  To feel changes more deeply, its best to do The EAsy Morning Ritual on a daily basis, working through the techniques each morning. 

If you have only 5 minutes to spare, fine, use it, if you have 15 even better!  The more time you can dedicate, the more you expand this precious window, hence the  greater the effect will be. 

If 5 mins is all the time you have available in the mornings, do each of the rituals for 1 minute, if you have 15mins do each for 3 minutes.

If you forget a day, dont be hard on yourself, simply make a mental note before you go to bed that night to remember to do the rituals the following morning.

Goodluck, enjoy and let me know how you get on.    Until then love and laughter mysticmiss

Mysticmiss’s Morning Ritual – 5 steps to a wonderful day

1.  Say goodmorning to your body

The moment you become aware that you are no longer sleeping, take your attention to your breath in order to connect with yourself.  Focussing on your breath for 5 breaths.

Now take your attention to your feet/legs and work your way up to your head, saying goodmorning to the different parts of your body. 

With sincerity,  thank each part for the role it plays in you being able to exist & live your life.  No need to say it aloud, this can be done silently, the important thing is to say it sincerely, so put your heart into it. 

eg. Goodmorning feet & legs,  thank you for the great job you do so that I can walk, ride my bike and move around so freely, I am really grateful.  goodmorning stomach & digestive system, thank you for the amazing job you do of digesting the food I eat, I am so very grateful for what you do for me.  etc etc

You may say the same things each day or you may change them. You can work up through the general body or can focus on more intricate parts, whatever feels right for you.  

If you have pain or illness in a particular area, be sure to include these in the goodmorning ritual.

If a particular part of the body did a great job for you in the previous day, be sure to praise it.  eg. thank you fingers for the great piano practise yesterday. i enjoyed it so much, thank you! 

2. Visualise the people you love.

Start with yourself.  Visualise yourself, once that visualisation is clear, visualise a beautiful pink bubble surrounding you completely.  The bubble can look misty like a cloud, it can be like a bubble gum bubble, or anything else you visualise as a bubble its up to you. 

Now look into your eyes and give yourself a sincere smile.  Say ‘goodmorning (your name) I wanted to tell you that I love you and I am really proud of who you are and all you do’   have a wonderful day today. Visualise giving yourself a hug.

Move to family/friends/ children/ wife/husband and do the same. 

While you always begin this exercise with yourself , you do not have to do the same people every morning. You can rotate, so do family one day, friends the next, or a mix of both each day. Its up to you. But always begin the ritual with yourself. 

if you have a friend who is having a hard time, this is a great exercise. you can say to them something like this, ‘ i know its not easy for you right now, I am thinking of you and sendng you love’ 

3. Gratitude

Choose things that you are grateful for and say it silently to life/existance/god/buddha/shiva/allah

eg.  ‘Thank you for the great friends I have, I am so grateful they are in my life’

‘Thank you for my loving wife, i am really grateful she is in my life thank you’

‘thank you for my health, I am really grateful’

‘thank you for my the geat sleep I had, I really needed it thank you ‘

 

4. Affirmations

I am inspired by life and am delighted to be here.

I am safe and all is well in my life.

I trust the process of life is on my side always working for my highest good and greatest joy.

Everywhere I look I see miracles.

Beauty in all forms surrounds me.

My health is fantastic.

I am full with vitality

I love life 

My awareness is developing daily.

Everything I touch is a success. 

My days are filled with enormous potential. I can achieve anything I put my mind to.

Say these silently and sincerely with yourself.  You can change these, add to them or create your own.

5. Beginning your day

Focus on your breath for 5 -10 breaths, visualise yourself as relaxed, at peace and feeling healthy. Take a moment to be aware of how these feel as sensations in your body. Look into your eyes and say ‘have a wonderful day …(your name) 

Slowly open your eyes, say hello to the world and move on with your day. 

 

 

Does achieving goals & dreams bring lasting joy?

As children we are encouraged to dream, to have goals, to want to strive for something.. and as adults we work away trying to achieve these dreams & goals.. but then what?  What do we figure will be waiting for us as the end of this journey?

What happens when we reach the point of achieving all the dreams and goals that we made for ourselves? Do you believe there will be deep joy and happiness waiting for you? Do you think everything will be fabulous once you get there?  Do you believe the stresses worries and concerns that usually fill your life day to day will simply melt away? Will you be transported to a realm of endless joy & contentment?

I come from a family who encourgaed me to dream, to achieve and to believe I could be anything I wanted to be and achieve anything I wanted to. It was, from  my adult eyes,  the greatest gift my parents gave me.

 I wasnt someone who wanted to be a millionaire, or be famous, or re-invent the wheel. My goals were simple and wholesome and I believed that by achieving these, contentment and joy would be my reality. 

I wanted to travel the world, feel completely free, own a home, have financial security & find the love of my life..yep simple and wholesome..and yep ALL done. there is a big V next to them all..

I achieved all the goals and dreams I had planned for myself. They have all come true! A pretty large statement some would say, but its the honest truth.

And I have realised an interesting phenomenom. Those blessed goals and dreams do not guarantee happiness. They do not guarantee endless joy and contentment.  In fact, after the initial elation subsides that you are where you have been striving to be, a deep sense of emptiness comes, a sense of being lost arises and its incredibly confusing! 

Somewhere along the way, I created the belief that achieving my dreams & goals would make me happy and content..but it simply hasnt. And here I am wondering what did I miss, what piece of the jigsaw puzzle did i lose and not realise?  

Now before you all start shouting at your screen that I am an ungrateful witch, that I need to look at what i have and be happy,  or tell me I need to connect with God.. know that whilst achieving my dreams & goals, I was and still am,  deeply committed to my  personal development and feel I live life with a genuine & sincere positve attitude.  

 I am not miserable. I am not completely depressed. I have a great life, a great husband and feel a great sense of freedom. And I am immensley grateful for the support I have recieved from existance to help me get where I am in life.. Im just saying there is an emptiness within that I just did not count on being there when I reached this point in my life.  

The  saying ‘enjoy the journey’ is exactly what I have done, so its not even as though I am disappointed that I sacraficed my life to achieve my dreams.  Life  has been one great big amazing blast!  I wouldnt change a thing,  its been brilliant..  I just didnt take into consideration along that fab journey of achieving the goals & dreams that an added sense of joy and bliss would not be waiting for me at the end.

Admttedly, I did think I would be striving towards these goals for many more years than I actually was. They were achieved much earlier in my life than I expected and I consider it a wonderful blessing, one that I am most grateful for.

Not just because the goals were achieved, but more importantly I feel blessed that I am here with this confused and empty feeling reality now… and not 10-15 years down the track, with 10-15 more years of living with this illusion of guaranteed joy at the completion of the goals list.  

So what is the solution, what can one do to eleviate this confusing reality? 

Is it to simply create a new set of goals and dreams?  Is it to understand that life is full with ups and downs and there is no such thing as pure bliss? Or is it the age old question that we all ask ourselves once or perhaps a million times on our life..What is the purpose of life? Why am I here?

I dont have the answers yet.  But .. with an open heart & with all the awareness I have developed so far, I am searching.  

Hopefully, through meditation, research, reading works by mysics, sages & anyone else who may be able to shed some light on this intriging reality, I might find some  answers.. 

Until next time.. much love and laughter

mystic miss